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Befriending the Enemy

One time, I took action regardless of the fear I felt in my heart.

The greatest power we can ever own is living fear-free. This is a healthful way to live. As with any new habit, it can take a few weeks before it becomes part of what you do, say, think.

I discovered that if I have patience with myself and take things a tiny step at a time, I can make positive things happen.

In some way as well, every once in a while, with my heart in my mouth, I close my eyes and take that large singular step. I then open it and realize that I was able to achieve something.

Break free from fear by taking positive action towards your goals RIGHT NOW.

Break free from fear by taking positive action towards your goals RIGHT NOW.

Whether at work or at home, take things one day at a time, one single step at a time, or even one moment at a time.

Make that most important client call you’ve been postponing for the last moment.

Tackle that most irritating yet valuable task you’ve been relegating till whenever.

Take action upon an issue that has been sitting in your To-Do list for the longest time.

Every single day, take at least one action step related to your business goals as well as your personal dreams. And once you have taken that first step, take action daily despite the fear in your heart and the critical voice in your mind.

As you do so, your business and your life take on definite changes.  Fear, which was once the much-dreaded enemy lurking in the shadows, will soon be the much-needed ally in bolstering you towards success.

What has been your greatest fear and how were you able to deal with it?


Your Happiness Doesn’t Have a Sequel

Don’t postpone happiness.

Heart Stoppers for Champions (courtesy of RayaGr)

Heart Stoppers for Champions (courtesy of RayaGr)

Don’t even reschedule it, hoping the moment will come again and surprise you like a windswept lover.

Because somehow these tiny snatches of sunshine and joy may no longer have a sequel.



Invest in What’s Real

Invest in what’s real, who you really are and how you actually live your life.

I remember wandering aimlessly round the mall one Monday, and I was tempted more than once to fit myself into a size 0 pair of jeans that I spotted in a shop window.  The sales staff said, “Get it now before stocks run out.”

I thought about it for a second, and then I remembered that I couldn’t possibly squeeze myself into that tiny pair and decided I’d rather spend the money on my daughter’s trinkets and toys, a book I’ve long been wanting to read or maybe just save it toward the next trip to the malls.

Photo by Mark Mante

Someone once said we’re happiest when “our decisions most closely match our natures and our values.”

Well, I can relate that to our shopping addiction, err…decisions. Instead of spending money on the things you may have no use for in the future, ask yourself before purchasing anything, “How much do you need it? Will I die longing for it?”

This is a simple way of investing in your day-to-day life, and not feeding your fantasy life uselessly.

3 Parenting Rules I Love To Break

I spoil my child —seriously, I do. Now, sue me.

Now I do not advocate that you go against the law; rather, I’d like to think I am doing my best to work with what little resources I already have just so I can peaceably raise a child who is already wonderful to start with (aren’t all kids angels, to start with?), without sacrificing happiness and good intentions.

Rule #1: If it doesn’t work, don’t push it. 

When sleep is the least attractive option (photo courtesy of sskies)

It’s nearing 11:00 PM and Gabby is far from feeling sleepy.  I tried luring her to bed with nursery rhymes but instead she’s shrieking and swaying to Psy’s Oppa Gangnam Style.  She didn’t ingest anything carbonated, caffeinated or drug-laced; it’s boundless energy that hasn’t dipped since 5:00 AM of the same day.  With dishes waiting in the sink, an unfinished web mock-up waiting to be integrated into an e-commerce site and a continuous lack of sleep in a span of three or five days, I closed my eyes and counted to ten.  Instead of scolding her, I bit my tongue, handed her her stuffed little Teddy to hug while dancing and offered her about three warm spoonfuls of easily digestible cereal.  At the end of the chorus she said, “Enough” then plopped herself on her side of the bed, still giggling.  When I handed her her Dinosaur toothbrush, she was already between sleepiness and wakefulness.

LESSON LEARNED: I was no longer concerned about going beyond her scheduled bedtime; what’s important is being sensitive to and respectful of what she wants (as long as it’s not harmful to her) as much as being aware of her needs.

Rule #2: Sweet doesn’t always spell H-A-R-M-F-U-L

Sweets for the Sweetest (photo courtesy of stock.xchng)

My daughter doesn’t like chocolates overmuch; but she loves gummy worms and Skittles.  I don’t deprive her of sweets in a way that when other parents may have shouted “Stop it!”, I proceed to offer her one more tiny handful.  Most times, she indulges but sometimes, she just doesn’t want to touch the stuff —although she picks up a small packet from a grocery aisle and hugs it till we reach the cashier section.

LESSON LEARNED: As long as she brushes and gargles her teeth after every sweet treat, I see no harm in offering her a tiny portion.  But when I want to indulge myself, I hide behind my work table and nibble on jelly beans and Skittles.

Rule #3: Stop complaining, it’s Barney Country

Sometimes, you’ve got to hand it to this moppet for effectively quieting even the most rambunctious of kids (photo courtesy of

There are days when Barney really gets to me…but some kids can’t seem to get enough of the purple dinosaur! Respectful of my daughter’s TV choices, the TV is eternally stuck on Barney channel that I wouldn’t be very worried in case the remote disappears (I would console myself into thinking it’s lost somewhere in the tree house amongst Baby Bop’s toys).

LESSON LEARNED: Buy another set, or do something else while the Boss is entranced by the moppet.

What are the top three things your child has done (or hasn’t done!) to change your life forever?

Maligayang Pasko

Maligayang Pasko

Have you completed your Christmas list yet? Don’t let Santa or your BFF work overtime trying to guess what you’ve got on your bucket list.

Here’s a guide:


1. Unlimited supply of a heady brew

Creamy coffee like no other


2. Free ballet tutorials

Pointy toes


3. A little bit o’ bling goes a long, shiny way

Shiny shimmery splendid


4. An aromatic herb garden

An aromatic garden spells paradise


5.  And he on my doorstep!

The ultimate crush

Send me a few of your gift ideas as I come up with my own, too!