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Invest in What’s Real

Invest in what’s real, who you really are and how you actually live your life.

I remember wandering aimlessly round the mall one Monday, and I was tempted more than once to fit myself into a size 0 pair of jeans that I spotted in a shop window.  The sales staff said, “Get it now before stocks run out.”

I thought about it for a second, and then I remembered that I couldn’t possibly squeeze myself into that tiny pair and decided I’d rather spend the money on my daughter’s trinkets and toys, a book I’ve long been wanting to read or maybe just save it toward the next trip to the malls.

Photo by Mark Mante

Someone once said we’re happiest when “our decisions most closely match our natures and our values.”

Well, I can relate that to our shopping addiction, err…decisions. Instead of spending money on the things you may have no use for in the future, ask yourself before purchasing anything, “How much do you need it? Will I die longing for it?”

This is a simple way of investing in your day-to-day life, and not feeding your fantasy life uselessly.

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Does Wanting More Make You Greedy?

I asked this question a couple of times today to more than ten people while I was having a haircut in a near-empty salon:

“If you have a million pesos and wanted to make more out of it, would it make you a greedy person?”

Interestingly, nine out of ten people said no. And on a much more interesting note were some of the reasons behind their reply:

  1. “Because the more I need to make it grow makes me come across as business savvy”
  2. “Because if I worked hard for it, I deserve to find the means to make it serve a purpose”
  3. “Because if I didn’t work hard for it, it can be utilized as a blessing (not a curse)”
  4. “Because if you don’t use it, someone else will, and in a way, I lost the opportunity to make good use of it”
  5. “Because it’s meant to be spent and it defeats the purpose if I don’t use it”
  6. “Because it’s mine”

Does wanting more make you less of a person? (courtesy of http://www.instantshift.com)


When life hands you a million bucks, what do you do and why do you do it?

Do You Rock the Boat or Sink it?

Are you someone who motivates people?

Do you help build morale and keep it from crashing down to a person’s shoelaces?

Do your actions help enhance how people perform at work or function at home?

Do you resolve challenges instead of adding to conflict?

Do you look around and discover means to make other people’s lives including yours better?

And when you leave the room, how do you make people feel? Do you make them miss you and look forward to your next visit, next engagement, next date?

If you said yes to at least one or two of these questions, then you are a Captain who can successfully steer the ship towards its destination.

Do you know what it takes to lead? (courtesy of people-equation.com)

Even if the boat leaks, you know what to do.

Surviving 24 Hours

Working online has its perks:

  1. You get to spend a lot of time with your family while working (assuming you work from home and if you happen to live with your loved ones)
  2. You work at your own pace wherever and whenever you want (provided you are not working on something urgent and/or location-specific)
  3. You don’t have to dress up grandly or go out of the house to check email or touch base with your virtual team.

But there are days when, to borrow my Mom’s term for it, “you just can’t hack it”.  What are the most delirious ways you can come up with to survive a day (and night!) filled with fiery deadlines, nerve-wracking feedback and migraine-inducing colleagues?

DITCH THE GADGET

You do work online, but the Internet must not rule your business and your life.  I travel with just an iPhone and it’s all I need because this way, it leaves room for bottles of formula, water, baby diapers and baby clothes that I always lug around on one arm as I carry my baby on the other arm.  During breaks, I put my phones on silent and get back to them as soon as I resume work.  The world doesn’t end if you fail to answer an SMS or call for JUST a few minutes.  Do remember however to return calls and messages as soon as you get back to your work chair and shift to work mode.

BOOK AHEAD OF TIME

When my family and I go malling or stock up on a few grocery items, I always multi-task and bunch together a few tasks.  The day before, I confirm the travel schedule with Brother #3 (whom we hitch a ride from) and proceed to plot our itinerary in my head.  If someone needs a haircut, I book an early appointment and as soon as we reach our destination, that person goes to the salon while I do the grocery and my brother settles his business.  We find this setup extremely stress-relieving, time-saving and cost-efficient.

We also do the same thing when eating out —we order ahead of time most of the time (provided we have already made up our mind where to eat).

LET THERE BE LIGHT

First thing I always do upon waking up is drawing the curtains and letting the morning sunlight in.  It never fails to light one’s mood up!

Photo courtesy of @endangeredangel

TIPPING POINT

I learned a valuable lesson from Brother #3 and Sister #2: always leave or give a nice tip.  Most of the time, I get good service because Filipinos are inherently hospitable even to strangers.  On occasions when I come across someone mean or intolerable, I report the staff immediately to the supervisor and don’t leave a tip.

For more tips on local shores, you may refer to this article.  Also, let me know if this resembles your tipping style.

UPGRADE

What is the secret to getting an upgrade? It’s no secret, really.  When traveling, try to utilize as few providers as you possibly can.  You will attain a certain kind of privileged status and they will exert a special kind of effort for your comfort because they know you’re a valued consumer.

And one bonus tip:

OWN YOUR JOY

Live your life as if your life depended on keeping yourself and others happy.  Find reasons to be positive even in the direst situations.  I have a friend who laughs at her bald reflection every time she looks at herself in the mirror.  She is currently undergoing chemo and she has never relinquished her joy to the cancer cells slowly ravaging her body and her hair strands.

At the end of any stressful day, it all boils down to one thing: did you live it to the fullest knowing you did your best?

What are your survival tips?

Top Three Work Desk Must-Haves

Take a look at your work desk right now.

What are the things you see? Do you have everything you need within your reach? Do you have everything organized down to the last muffin crumb or did you suddenly realize you accidentally stuffed your document in the garbage bin and instead put the empty Skittles packet on file?

A friend once made comment that these items can be a form of security blanket, much like that grubby toy or unwashed blankie you couldn’t let go of when you were still this small.  Brother #3 calls it nambabangil (translation: whatever).

Here’s a list for starters:

Number One: Bookstore Finds – notebook, pen, paper, paper clips, filing folders, scissors —you name it, you’ve got stuff that can rival a mini bookstore

When everything you need is at your disposal (courtesy of goop.com)

 

Number Two: Grocery Items – food!  candy! Need I say more?

Heart Stoppers for Champions (courtesy of RayaGr)

 

Number Three: Fill-in-the-Blanks-Here – dental floss (a college friend has it still, within arm’s reach), moldy cheese (don’t ask me, it’s NOT mine), toys (I babysit while I work), a photo of something or someone which you occasionally stare at? (definitely not mine)

What are the top three items you cannot live without and need to see on your work table every day, 24/7?