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Suffocating Thoughts

Why is it so easy to think negatively? Well, how simple can it get, really.  Our active mind finds it simple to imagine the negative outcomes of your new business plan, your next uttered phrase or that meeting with a client you have coming up the next minute or the next day.

Queer as it may seem, it’s easier to visualize all the things that can go wrong.  Can’t help it, you say.

Here’s what is obvious: when you visualize clearly, and keep thinking about it over and over again, you don’t actually lessen the chances that you’re going to mess things up.

Snow creeps in and all great ideas get frozen, useless. (photo courtesy of Shawn Shepheard)

 

In fact, you may be fueling your chances and increase the odds against your favor.

When you choose to visualize the positive, the wonderful, the profitable, the awesome…voila! you’re more likely to keep your gems and in fact create the opportunity for great things to happen.

It is such a bad habit to cultivate something that leads us to failure.  It has never brought much success, if it brings any at all.

Invest in What’s Real

Invest in what’s real, who you really are and how you actually live your life.

I remember wandering aimlessly round the mall one Monday, and I was tempted more than once to fit myself into a size 0 pair of jeans that I spotted in a shop window.  The sales staff said, “Get it now before stocks run out.”

I thought about it for a second, and then I remembered that I couldn’t possibly squeeze myself into that tiny pair and decided I’d rather spend the money on my daughter’s trinkets and toys, a book I’ve long been wanting to read or maybe just save it toward the next trip to the malls.

Photo by Mark Mante

Someone once said we’re happiest when “our decisions most closely match our natures and our values.”

Well, I can relate that to our shopping addiction, err…decisions. Instead of spending money on the things you may have no use for in the future, ask yourself before purchasing anything, “How much do you need it? Will I die longing for it?”

This is a simple way of investing in your day-to-day life, and not feeding your fantasy life uselessly.

Does Wanting More Make You Greedy?

I asked this question a couple of times today to more than ten people while I was having a haircut in a near-empty salon:

“If you have a million pesos and wanted to make more out of it, would it make you a greedy person?”

Interestingly, nine out of ten people said no. And on a much more interesting note were some of the reasons behind their reply:

  1. “Because the more I need to make it grow makes me come across as business savvy”
  2. “Because if I worked hard for it, I deserve to find the means to make it serve a purpose”
  3. “Because if I didn’t work hard for it, it can be utilized as a blessing (not a curse)”
  4. “Because if you don’t use it, someone else will, and in a way, I lost the opportunity to make good use of it”
  5. “Because it’s meant to be spent and it defeats the purpose if I don’t use it”
  6. “Because it’s mine”

Does wanting more make you less of a person? (courtesy of http://www.instantshift.com)


When life hands you a million bucks, what do you do and why do you do it?

Cheery Cheesecake

I’ve always wanted to do something express, like blitz through Christmas, zip through the New Year then float all year ’round.

There have always been questions as I may be able to do one or all of the above:

  1. How to start
  2. Where to start
  3. Whose company to suffer

Obviously, there will always be that much more daunting task of gaining a friend’s confidence in doing something that has nothing to do with anything normal —you can’t sail through Christmas without first savoring it for  all its accouterments, you can’t face January without having jetted off into sense through the Holidays and can’t afford to float around like a bum the next whole year with mouths to feed, a couple of luxuries to sustain and a paradox of a life to configure.

I look at Nigella and see how easy and cheery it is to create Cherry Cheesecake from scratch.  But then well, I do not pretend to be Nigella at all, although I have started to chill the graham crust in the fridge as I type this up (having long gobbled up the oatmeal cookies that were supposed to pass off as digestive biscuits)

There is also one question I’ve long been wanting to ask: when to start.

You see, when there is the intention to do something better —or extraordinary even— there will always be the length of time (to complete it sensibly) factored in.  You always wanted to know when you want things to happen, if ever they do happen at all.

Undoubtedly, there lies the challenge of creating a cheery cheesecake of a dream, which everyone wants to partake of but which only a few brave souls can muster up the courage to see through completion.  We know beauty when we see it, but creating something beautiful out of the ordinary is something we presume as herculean and dismiss as trivial.

Let me start making the sour cream filling, but first let me ask you: what is it that is holding you back?

And when do you plan to take the cheesecake out of the fridge of your dreams?

In Your Bag

I woke up one morning and realized that my daughter has more bags than I could ever buy.

Well, she does own more pairs of shoes than I do, too. The number of pairs can very nearly rival Imelda Marcos’ collection, to my family’s amusement.

I went over to where she was watching Barney and rummaged through her “countless” bags, picked one at random as she danced and watched me like a hawk.

I empty the contents onto her bed.  She was talking non-stop — not to me, but to the bits and pieces on her bed.

Times have changed. The tides have turned.

And the contents of baby’s bags have somehow evolved.

Ovaleye’s Kathy Nelson

Before becoming Chief Decision Maker at Ovaleye, she used to be hailed as the Original Napster.

(photo taken from theworkathomewoman.com)

I came across her video on YouTube while I was lazily looking for a makeover tutorial and I immediately hit the Subscribe button.

Organizing Your Team and Keeping Productivity Up

There’s something about her that makes you trust her instantaneously and from then on, I religiously watched her on Ovaleye TV, followed her and her daughter Jenn on Facebook (who’s Director of Operations) and valued her SOHO tips (small office-home office).  She inspired me to start blogging once more but this time, following a more solid and worthwhile direction.

Her humility and grace is awesome; I felt as if I was aiming for the moon when I sent her a message with a simple request: if I can feature her on my blog, saying that I have nothing to offer her aside from my earnestness to share with you all the wonderful things I learned from her.  And she agreed! More than that, she warmly reached out and made me feel very welcome.

What inspired her to start Ovaleye?

My husband and I owned mainstreetmusic.com from 1999-2005. We competed with iTunes and Walmart music downloads back then. It was a crazy fun business to be in. We had thousands of people visiting our website daily and it created many down times for us. So we bought a couple of servers and put them in a safe location in downtown Seattle and were able to handle our traffic easily. But then Walmart bought our database providers and mainstreetmusic.com stopped. I had two servers now what do I do with them? My husband and I started Ovaleye.com back in 2006 helping our local businesses with their websites and hosting them on our servers. Our daughter Jenn joined the business after she graduated from college. We now have many servers in that same secure location and Ovaleye provides hosting and cloud services to all our members all over the world.

I know how challenging it is to get investors. How did she find investors for the business?
Finding investors can be easy if your business is sound and full of potential. I had a couple investors at one point but it didn’t work out. I learned some very valuable lessons that year. I learned that no one is as passionate about your business as you are. Your work ethics are different from the investors. I am sure there are great investors and partnerships out there. At the moment there are no plans to find another investor.

Her take on the most difficult part of starting the business
Starting the business was the easy part. You have to sustain the business and help it grow with decisions you make every day after that. I would say the hardest part for me so far is year 5 and we got through it.I hadn’t gone to that level with mainstreetmusic.com so it was new territory.  Partners, adding new services, and marketing efforts all were hit and misses.  But if you don’t try these you can’t get to year 6 and beyond.

Kathy and Jenn on Ovaleye TV (photo taken from theworkathomewoman.com)

Her expectations for the future regarding Ovaleye
My expectations for the future are good.  Ovaleye uses tons of tools in our tool box of technology.  We have the love of technology and what it can bring to our members.  We have so many things to offer that we haven’t even begun to bring to light.  It’s very exciting!

With her various roles as Mom, grandparent and Chief Decision Maker, here’s how she manages her time
There is not enough time in a day (I agree, Kathy!).  From day one I have never made rules on what time or days I work. I wake up early and start working if needed and work with my daughter and grandson at the Ovaleye headquarters.  In the evenings we have shows on live stream and weekends are filled with family and work.  It seems to balance out after 6 years.  I wouldn’t do this unless it was fun and exciting!

Being Grandma (photo taken from http://www.urbanblisslife.com)

Her top 3 lessons that she learned and which can help us

  1. Start a business you love that you will enjoy spending oodles and oodles of time on.
  2. Learn every day something new about building a business with books, videos and tips from business leaders.
  3. If you don’t try something every day you don’t succeed.

Watch Kathy on Ovaleye TV, follow her on Twitter and Facebook.  She also has a wonderful and inspiring blog.

Mom says she is a “lovely girl”.

Meeting Mr. Right

This guy has a formidable resume.  He’s my perfect blueprint for Mr. Right.

(photo taken from franciskong.com)

This did not deter me however from sending him a message that he may have received quite often in the course of his busy life; there is something about him beyond his credentials that defines who he actually is and where his heart lies.  And despite his stature, his humility stands out.

I caught Francis Kong on Facebook and was astounded that he actually replied and agreed to my request.  See, from his Wall, you pretty much have a sense of how he spends his day —he is extremely busy.  Yet he is cool, calm and collected.  Launching a new concept in consultancy and selling, he saw the need for an “army of consultants” rather than that of sales people.  He has authored books on entrepreneurship, life-changing habits, finance and more.

True to form, he is gracious enough to grant this simple interview.  Excerpts:

Should you combine your many passions or should you choose just one?
I always believe in Focus.  Narrow your target objective but deepen it in terms of excellence and skills.

Following your dreams at any age: how does one do it?
Dreams come true only when the dreamer wakes up and do some work.  Study.  Study.  Study.  Prepare.  Prepare and Prepare and do not allow distractions to come in between your goals.

How do you spend time to relax? Do you still have time for a break?
My relaxations come in spurts.  I have mini-breaks through out the day and even during work.

What top 3 life lessons did you learn that can help others like me?
Love God first and have an intimate personal relationship with Jesus Christ.  He then grants you the ability to know and understand His Word (Bible) and equips you with the power to obey and steer your life towards the right path for success.  Love your neighbors.  Never allow greed or money to take priority but use your God-given talents to serve others.  Be honest, be truthful and maintain humility at all time without relaxing your efforts in leveling up all the time.  Every blessing is a test on our character while every test is a blessing in disguise.

Is there something you wish to achieve more?
Doing more training in the international scene.

Many years ago, I remember coming across this author while browsing in a bookstore (because the money I wish I could spend on great books was instead spent on meals) that changed my perspective in life:  He inspired me to dream big and to turn this dream into reality.  I am living the dream now, and the bonus is that I have been lucky enough to meet the inspiration behind it.  Thank you, Mr. Francis.