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Befriending the Enemy

One time, I took action regardless of the fear I felt in my heart.

The greatest power we can ever own is living fear-free. This is a healthful way to live. As with any new habit, it can take a few weeks before it becomes part of what you do, say, think.

I discovered that if I have patience with myself and take things a tiny step at a time, I can make positive things happen.

In some way as well, every once in a while, with my heart in my mouth, I close my eyes and take that large singular step. I then open it and realize that I was able to achieve something.

Break free from fear by taking positive action towards your goals RIGHT NOW.

Break free from fear by taking positive action towards your goals RIGHT NOW.

Whether at work or at home, take things one day at a time, one single step at a time, or even one moment at a time.

Make that most important client call you’ve been postponing for the last moment.

Tackle that most irritating yet valuable task you’ve been relegating till whenever.

Take action upon an issue that has been sitting in your To-Do list for the longest time.

Every single day, take at least one action step related to your business goals as well as your personal dreams. And once you have taken that first step, take action daily despite the fear in your heart and the critical voice in your mind.

As you do so, your business and your life take on definite changes.  Fear, which was once the much-dreaded enemy lurking in the shadows, will soon be the much-needed ally in bolstering you towards success.

What has been your greatest fear and how were you able to deal with it?

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Your Happiness Doesn’t Have a Sequel

Don’t postpone happiness.

Heart Stoppers for Champions (courtesy of RayaGr)

Heart Stoppers for Champions (courtesy of RayaGr)

Don’t even reschedule it, hoping the moment will come again and surprise you like a windswept lover.

Because somehow these tiny snatches of sunshine and joy may no longer have a sequel.

 

 

Suffocating Thoughts

Why is it so easy to think negatively? Well, how simple can it get, really.  Our active mind finds it simple to imagine the negative outcomes of your new business plan, your next uttered phrase or that meeting with a client you have coming up the next minute or the next day.

Queer as it may seem, it’s easier to visualize all the things that can go wrong.  Can’t help it, you say.

Here’s what is obvious: when you visualize clearly, and keep thinking about it over and over again, you don’t actually lessen the chances that you’re going to mess things up.

Snow creeps in and all great ideas get frozen, useless. (photo courtesy of Shawn Shepheard)

 

In fact, you may be fueling your chances and increase the odds against your favor.

When you choose to visualize the positive, the wonderful, the profitable, the awesome…voila! you’re more likely to keep your gems and in fact create the opportunity for great things to happen.

It is such a bad habit to cultivate something that leads us to failure.  It has never brought much success, if it brings any at all.

Invest in What’s Real

Invest in what’s real, who you really are and how you actually live your life.

I remember wandering aimlessly round the mall one Monday, and I was tempted more than once to fit myself into a size 0 pair of jeans that I spotted in a shop window.  The sales staff said, “Get it now before stocks run out.”

I thought about it for a second, and then I remembered that I couldn’t possibly squeeze myself into that tiny pair and decided I’d rather spend the money on my daughter’s trinkets and toys, a book I’ve long been wanting to read or maybe just save it toward the next trip to the malls.

Photo by Mark Mante

Someone once said we’re happiest when “our decisions most closely match our natures and our values.”

Well, I can relate that to our shopping addiction, err…decisions. Instead of spending money on the things you may have no use for in the future, ask yourself before purchasing anything, “How much do you need it? Will I die longing for it?”

This is a simple way of investing in your day-to-day life, and not feeding your fantasy life uselessly.

Does Wanting More Make You Greedy?

I asked this question a couple of times today to more than ten people while I was having a haircut in a near-empty salon:

“If you have a million pesos and wanted to make more out of it, would it make you a greedy person?”

Interestingly, nine out of ten people said no. And on a much more interesting note were some of the reasons behind their reply:

  1. “Because the more I need to make it grow makes me come across as business savvy”
  2. “Because if I worked hard for it, I deserve to find the means to make it serve a purpose”
  3. “Because if I didn’t work hard for it, it can be utilized as a blessing (not a curse)”
  4. “Because if you don’t use it, someone else will, and in a way, I lost the opportunity to make good use of it”
  5. “Because it’s meant to be spent and it defeats the purpose if I don’t use it”
  6. “Because it’s mine”

Does wanting more make you less of a person? (courtesy of http://www.instantshift.com)


When life hands you a million bucks, what do you do and why do you do it?

Do You Rock the Boat or Sink it?

Are you someone who motivates people?

Do you help build morale and keep it from crashing down to a person’s shoelaces?

Do your actions help enhance how people perform at work or function at home?

Do you resolve challenges instead of adding to conflict?

Do you look around and discover means to make other people’s lives including yours better?

And when you leave the room, how do you make people feel? Do you make them miss you and look forward to your next visit, next engagement, next date?

If you said yes to at least one or two of these questions, then you are a Captain who can successfully steer the ship towards its destination.

Do you know what it takes to lead? (courtesy of people-equation.com)

Even if the boat leaks, you know what to do.

Top 3 Business and Life Lessons of 2012

Make peace with your past.

Have you made a couple of mistakes both professionally and personally that continue to hound you or that nearly cost you your life’s savings, even your life?

In life, you learn how to deal with mistakes

Three ways to conquer and silence the beast:

  1. Forgive yourself for committing a faux pas, then move on.  Start again!
  2. What’s the lesson that merits your undivided attention? Don’t lose it.
  3. Recreate something useful and creative from what tripped you in the past.

Eat, pray, love.

Your own fears can be a stumbling block to success and can cause even the most diligent to retrace their steps back to the starting line instead of push towards the finish line.

You eat while I pray which is what they love

What’s wrong with enjoying the lasting benefits of a plateful of fruit with a slab of chocolate on the side? Why be scared of asking God for what you’ve been dreaming of for two or more decades? What’s the fear that’s preventing you from reciprocating the humble affections of a loved one?

Pay it forward.

I started out as a virtual worker knowing only the basics.  With the help of family, friends and colleagues, I was able to understand the intricacies of balancing home life, motherhood and a virtual career.  I was able to discover the joys of helping a business grow and help other people in the process.

A great way to settle old debts

There are many ways to pay your dues forward, but one main thing stands out the most: always reach out.  It is not enough to just listen to what others say or don’t say.  Most times, it is the unspoken word that strikes a deep chord and moves the person to action.  So reach out and hold on to the person until he has steadied himself and can ably help someone else.  Let the cycle continue.